I want to learn more about this Proverbs 31 woman. What can I learn from her? Can she teach me how to calm my mind, my dog, and my sanity? So, let’s just start. Let’s learn about who she is.
Proverbs 31 is basically the advice a mother is giving her son who is a king. She gives great advice like not to drink, or forget the poor. Then, she starts to talk about an wife… what makes the ideal woman. The Proverbs 31 woman is not a real woman at all, but an ideal.
Proverbs 31 starts with“the sayings of King Lemuel—tells an inspired utterance his (the king’s) mother taught him.” No one is quite sure who King Lemuel is – however, we do know that his mother’s utterances or advice was inspired – inspired by God.
This is wonderful. The Proverbs 31 wasn’t this super woman that the king’s mother dreamed up. She was inspired, specially placed into scripture. Specially placed that you and I could read about her – learn about her.
A wife of noble character who can find?
She is worth far more than rubies. Proverbs 31:10 NIV
She need not be a princess or be a noble descent, but she needs to have noble character. noble : having or showing fine personal qualities or high moral principles and ideals
Other versions describe her as as virtuous (KJV), capable (GNB), or an excellent wife (ESV). And the Message version simply states, “a good woman is hard to find.” (MSG).
In the Bible there is a real woman who is described just like this. Her name is Ruth.
And now, my daughter, don’t be afraid. I will do for you all you ask. All the people of my town know that you are a woman of noble character. Ruth 3:11 (NIV)
Ruth isn’t a noble. In fact, she wasn’t even Jewish. She lived with her Jewish mother-in-law, Naiomi, after her husband died. She journeyed with Naiomi to a land that wasn’t her own. She never left Naiomi’s side. She famously told her, “Where you go, I go…” She wasn’t this perfect woman. She arrived in an unknown land, empty handed. But she had started to put her trust in Naiomi’s God. And God shaped her, shaped her life. He took care of her. And amazingly our savior Jesus was descended from this woman. A woman who trusted God when she knew nothing. A woman who gave God control.
But… I really wanted to find a list. Like always say please and thank you, let others go before you in the grocery line, and always pick up your dogs droppings from other people’s yard. But maybe we have to lose a bit of the control. We need to allow God to shape us into this woman. And just like the variety of words used in Proverbs 31:10 used to describe this woman, she will look a little different in each of our lives. So, my list of developing noble character is not one of controlling my self, but giving over control.
- Trust the Lord, your God.
- Allow him to shape you.
It’s sounds so simple, but I know … oh do I know that I have a problem with control. So, my prayer today is that everyday I trust in God more and more and allow him to shape me as he see fits.